This isn't the same trauma but my mother was killed by a drunk driver when I was 10. My father and stepmother were (he died) and are alcoholics. For a long time, I wanted nothing to do with alcohol. I didn't judge anyone who partook, just wasn't something I was even remotely interested in.

Every party I went to, people would try to push it on me but I was candid with them and said, "Not interested, thank you." Any awkwardness was on them, not me. It wasn't my problem if they had a problem with me being not interested in drinking, to my mind.

I share this to say, it's not Dan's role to placate and manage his friends expectations of sex regarding his body. I'm pretty shocked and a bit appalled at the commenters who think otherwise.

If the roles were reversed, if it were a woman who had to pretend to have sex with a male stripper, would they feel the same way?